Monday, March 31, 2014

Parenthood by Ron Howard

The movie portrays the different parenting styles displayed by different parents. Parenting style is very important because it affects the future of the family, parenting style is not by learning or a skill, it is how a person spread the values to the next generation. In this movie, there are four different parents acted in the different way.

The first parents, Gil Buckman and Karen Buckman, who are the main highlight in the movie. Gil and Karen are using authoritative parenting style where they expect their children to follow their guidelines and rules. Gil has a very unhealthy childhood times where his father always dumps him alone, he thinks that he will not let his children to have such childhood times as him. So, he learns to be more responsible towards his kids, bringing them to watch the match and also listen to what his children thinks. However, they face challenges when they find out that their elder son, Kevin actually has emotional problems and his teacher suggests him to take the special education. Gil tries to help his son by helping him to build confidence and trust in front of Kevin’s friends. Though the problems keep coming out when the emotion of Kevin becomes more severe.

Gil’s sister, Helen is a divorced parent who has an elder daughter and a son. Helen is a indulgent parent who acting in permissive parenting style towards her children. Such parenting style allows children to behave self-indulgent and no discipline. It can be seen in Helen’s elder daughter, Julie, she dislike study and loves her boyfriend so much. While Gary, Helen’s son, is quiet and likes to be alone in his room. Helen has no control or demand with them, which leads them to become “spoilt” kids. Helen faces the challenges where Julie has a relationship with her boyfriend and gets pregnant, while Gary locks himself in the room.

On the other hand, Gil’s another sister, Susan, who is a teacher married to a man who is an intelligent scientist, Nathan. In this movie, authoritarian style can be seen in this married couples, Nathan behaves very tense and high demanding towards his daughter, Patty. Despite of Susan who eagerly to get another children, Nathan puts entire expectation on Patty, he thinks that they need to have full focus on Patty in order to develop her into a perfect person in the future. However, it makes Patty develops anti-social behavior where her maturity is different with the same age of children. Besides, it affects Patty’s childhood moment when she can only be obedient and do what his dad wants.

Lastly, another parenting style which can be seen in “Parenthood” is uninvolved parenting approach. This kind of parents, totally ignore the needs of the children, which is the same as Larry, Gil’s youngest brother. Larry is being low responsive to his son, Cool. He barely talks to him and Cool is always taking care by Larry’s father. In this case, Cool has becomes more emotionally withdrawn from social situations.


I am not going to say which parenting style is right or wrong, but I personally think that one should interpret appropriate parenting style depending on the situation, not just follow blindly in order to provide a better future for the next generation.

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